My friend and I both have this problem, and I was wondering if we could get some advice.
I can achieve an orgasm on my own, quite easily, but when I’m with my partner, it takes far to long, and usually she can’t get me to cum at all. I care for her, we’ve been together for a long time, etc. It’s not a matter of my attraction to her, I just can’t achieve an orgasm with anyone else.
It’s getting quite annoying.
Also, I’ve had this problem with more then one lover.
I was wondering if anyone had any advice.
Thank you so much.
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March 27th, 2010 at 2:01 am
if you can achieve an orgasm on your own, show your partner exactly what you like.
that way, she will probably make you c**
good luck, and have funnn (;
March 27th, 2010 at 2:01 am
use more toys
March 27th, 2010 at 2:01 am
maybe have her do what u do to your self or have oral sex that way she’ll get you turned in more it works for me a lot your clit..
March 27th, 2010 at 2:01 am
Assuming that she’s doing the right things to make you orgasm then I think it must be your mental state during sex. If you’re thinking about what you’re going to be making for dinner or a school project you will probably not be having an orgasm. Even if you’re thinking about sex but not really focusing on what’s happening sometimes it’s enough to distract you to the point that it takes you longer to orgasm. Orgasms are almost as much mental as they are physical. You can enjoy a fantasy running thru your head, watch porn or something else sexual.
For me I like to talk and tell my husband the things I want to do to him and how much I love what he’s doing to me but you should try some different things, watching – visuallizing a fantasy – talking dirty – etc.
March 27th, 2010 at 2:01 am
Hunny… you just gotta teach your lover *exactly* what you need to get off.
You do masturbate, right? (I mean, you’re human, so you *must* do that at least sometimes, and if you even bother doing it, it’s because it gives you orgasms)… so one thing you might do is to set the scene for a night of romance, and *teach* her how to make you come… starting off with giving yourself an orgasm (or two or three or… ) entirely solo, while she watches you doing it and learns from your words, your motions, your touches and all the rest.
Get her to do the same… it’s not just about orgasm (although on your own part, that’s a *HUGE* part of it)… it’s about bonding and intimacy. It’a about knowing the most private partts of each other’s needs as well as just touching each other’s "private parts".
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