My bf is really great in bed & he won’t stop/c*m until he thinks i’ve had an orgasm. But sometimes i just can’t c*m, not that he’s bad, it feels great, but i just don’t reach that point so i fake it. Do you think this is bad? He seems really into pleasing me so would it be really bad for his ego if i told him the truth?
Also, how do guys like female moaning. Is it a turn on? or does it get weird/annoying? What kind of moaning is best? Loud Screamers? or soft whimpers?
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December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Men are sensitive about pleasing women. If you ain’t moaning and groaning in pleasure they think they aren’t doing their job. Be glad that you don’t have a man who cares only about his own pleasure. If you’re enjoying your sex life as it is then don’t tell him.
December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Don’t think you should tell.
My husband like me moaning.
What ever comes natural. If you fake the moans, it will be bad
December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I wouldn’t fake it. Great sex does not necessarily mean an orgasm every time.
Soft whimpers are fine.
December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
many woman face this problem, cos men think they have "failed" if the woman doesn’t reach her climax.
i can understand why you fake it.
i reason you don’t quite get there is because you get insufficient stimulation of the clitoris during penetrative sex.
if you can persuade him to stimulate your clitoris, and suck your nipples for around 10 to 20 mins b4 penetration, you should be so close to your climax, that you should reach your orgasm during intercourse, and wont have to fake it.
he will be pleased when you do, and i suspect it will make you happy too.
December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
You shouldn’t fake it. The only person you’re really cheating when you do is yourself. Don’t tell him you have in the past though, that’s a horrible blow to the ego.
Next time it isn’t happening, just say so. He’ll be a bit upset, but he’ll get over it. Just show him what you like and remember that good sex is good sex, there just isn’t always an orgasm.
As for the moaning, different men prefer different levels. Some like the soft whimpers, others like whiners, still others like the screamers. Do what’s natural. No matter what he prefers, he’ll probably still be turned on by the sounds you make.
December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Probably wouldn’t be a good idea to tell the BF. I am guessing it definitely would be humiliating that he cannot bring you to that point.
As far as the moaning goes I believe it adds to action, especially if he enjoys pleasing you. If he is that type of guy he would be one that would want the type of moaning to be a not to loud but not to soft type.
December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Faking it is bad!
As for the moaning:
For me loud screaming is just that. It to me is a desperate cry for attention. Less attractive.
Soft whimpers as you put it is far more sexy and erotic.
December 24th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Well, in my opinion it’s not good to fake it. This is making your boyfriend feel as if he is pleasuring you when he really isn’t and in turn you don’t get to feel good and in intimate moments you should both feel great. If he is willing to pleasure you until you do have an orgasm, let him! Guide him to the spots that get you going, show him what you like or start off doing it yourself and let him finish you. Not every woman can have an orgasm while a man penetrates her during sex. Sometimes clitoral stimulation is required as well. If your worried about his ego, don’t tell him just don’t fake it either. Next time you engage in intimate activities, let him keep going until you really orgasm. It will make it hotter when your have your hand over his moving it over the spots you like and that way you don’t embarrass him by not telling him. You just show him. However, if you have a very close relationship and have been together, he won’t mind you telling him. As far as the moaning and stuff, just don’t worry about it. It should come naturally, you shouldn’t have to do it. When my boyfriend and I engage in intimate activities, it just happens. I don’t even know how loud I moan cause I get lost in the pleasure. Just get lost in it. No distractions, show him what you like, do to him what he likes, and don’t fake it. You don’t benefit if you fake it, and that’s no fun…